As we approach the new year, it's a good time to take stock of the past and look forward to the future. If you've recently been through a divorce, as traumatizing as it can be, there are some lessons you can learn while letting go of the past. In the process, you can learn a great deal about yourself and ensure that you don't repeat the same relationship mistakes in the future. These tips may not be as easy as Elsa makes it look in Frozen, but hopefully, in the end, you'll be able to “let it go” as well. 

• Don't Jump into a New Relationship: Before you've examined past mistakes and healed, you may want to wait to start a new serious relationship. Give yourself time and space to reflect on the past first.
• Examine Your Relationship: Take an honest look at your relationship and its problems. A breakup is rarely the fault of just one person, and you can learn a lot about yourself while examining how you've reacted in the past.
• Learn to Communicate: Part of letting go can be learning to be cordial with your ex. Whether working together to split up your assets, discussing your children, or gaining closure, neutral communication can help you move forward from the hurts of the past.
• Be Open to Letting Go: Before letting anything go from your past, you must be willing to learn from your mistakes and move on. This can be easier said than done, but hopefully, you'll be ready with time.
• Consult with Others: Sometimes, gaining the perspective of people around you can help. Talk to your friends and family and get their opinions. Talk to a counselor if you aren't comfortable talking to someone in your life.
• Forgive: Forgiveness can also help you find peace. Truly forgiving your ex and yourself for mistakes in the past can help you look to a brighter future.

Hire an Experienced North Carolina Family Lawyer

If you're planning a divorce, it's a good idea to seek legal guidance before you begin the process. The experienced family attorneys at Jerkins Family Law have helped many North Carolina families over the years and can help you too. Call Jerkins Family Law at 919-719-2785 or contact us online.