Here's an understatement: Divorce is stressful. In fact, the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory ranks divorce as the second most stressful event in life.
If you're navigating a divorce, this is hardly news to you. From the emotional upheaval you may experience to the simple logistics of separating assets and learning to live on your own, a lot is going on.
To make it through this difficult time, you need to remember to take care of you.
The Fundamental Self-Care Practices You Need During Your Divorce
- Permit yourself to feel a wide range of emotions. Divorce is complicated and messy. You may feel confused, relieved, angry, exhausted, and grieved. Allow yourself the space you need to process these emotions for as long as is helpful.
- Find others who are going through a similar situation. Your family and friends will support you as best they can, but it's also important to find a community that completely understands. Join a support group or reach out to other divorcees to find solace and solidarity.
- Invest in yourself and who you want to be. As painful as this season may be, try to see it as an opportunity to begin anew. Take some time to practice beloved hobbies (or try out new ones), or invest in your health.
Aside from these general, foundational practices, it's always helpful to have a few go-to practical strategies as well:
- Make a schedule and stick to it. You lost your normal routine in the divorce, as well as your partner; re-establishing a new routine can feel comforting.
- Find a way to move your body regularly. Endorphins can help you feel happier on a neurological level.
- Set a goal and work towards it. Seeing growth and progress during a difficult time can also help you feel happier and more productive.
Start small, repeat as necessary, and incorporate as many self-care strategies as you need. And, if you have any questions or require more support as you go through your divorce, feel free to give me a call at 919-719-2785 or reach out online. I'm here to help you and your former partner navigate this new phase of life.