We hear a lot about gratitude these days. Research shows that gratitude can make people happier, counteract depression and suicidal thoughts, improve relationships, and increase self-esteem. However, it can seem hard to feel grateful for what you have if you're in the middle of a divorce or separation or facing another serious family crisis like an illness or death. But as we head into the Thanksgiving season, making an effort to find gratitude may help carry us through rough times.

Finding Gratitude

While finding gratitude can sometimes feel challenging, you can take concrete steps to improve your outlook.

1. Practice mindfulness. 

Sit down daily and think about three to four things you're grateful for. Maybe it's your children, your cat, or the macaroni and cheese you had for lunch. It doesn't matter how small or large; just keep up the mental exercise daily. Over time you can train your brain to look for the good in your life automatically.

2. Keep a gratitude journal.

Every day, take some time to write down your positive thoughts. You can write about the things you're grateful for, something positive that happened that day, or a song you heard that made you smile. Writing will keep you focused on the subject and focused on positivity for at least a short time every day.

3. Volunteer

When you volunteer, you often get back more than you give. Volunteering in your community can. Make you appreciate what you have and the people surrounding you. Plus, people who volunteer to help others increase their well-being and mental health. Volunteering is a win-win!

4. Spend time with loved ones.

Spending time with people you care about can remind you of what you truly are thankful for. Whether you spend time with your children, family, or friends, it can strengthen your relationships and allow you to practice gratitude in your daily life.

5. Write someone a letter.

Write a letter to someone you care for, telling them how thankful you are for their presence in your life. It can be a friend, family member, or your 6-year-old's teacher. But telling others why they're important can lift their day and make you feel better.

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